Your Mental Health: Dealing with Loneliness
Earlier this week was World Mental Health Day, a day to open up and discuss our mental health and share advice. At this time of year, many people may be experiencing loneliness.
Loneliness is not the same as being alone. Some people enjoy their own company and live happily without contact from other people. But some people may find this a lonely experience. Loneliness is best described as ‘the feeling we get when our need for rewarding social contact and relationships is not met.’ (Mind.org.uk, 2022)
Feeling lonely isn’t considered a mental health problem but having a mental health problem can increase your chance of feeling lonely, and feeling lonely can increase your chances of feeling low, depressed or anxious.
Loneliness affects 9% of the UK Population which is around 4 million people and this number is on the rise.
There can be many reasons why loneliness occurs, for example, going through a relationship break-up or experiencing a bereavement, changing jobs, retiring, starting University or moving to a new county or new area without friends or family.
Some people find certain times of the year makes them lonely, for example Christmas or winter time.
If you are suffering with feelings of loneliness, we have a few tips of things you can try to increase your mood:
- Make new connections – You could join a class or group based on your hobbies or interests. Volunteering is also a good way to make new connections.
- Try to open up and talk – You might know lots of people but not have anyone to open up to about your true feelings. Talking to friends and family about things that are bothering you, or even speaking with a therapist can help you not feel so alone.
- Don’t compare yourself to others – It’s very easy to compare ourselves to peers and strangers, especially on social media. Remember not everything is always as it seems and people tend to only share the highlights of their lives online.
- Look after yourself – feeling lonely can be stressful. Make sure you are getting enough sleep, exercise and are eating a balanced diet. Avoiding drink and drugs and try to get plenty of fresh air. Spending time outside and with animals can do wonders for your overall mental health.
Do you have any tips on how to feel less lonely? Have you recently joined a group or found new connections to share your hobbies with? We would be interested in hearing about your experience.
If you feel you may be suffering from anxiety and/or depression, it is important to talk to your GP and get help and support to make you feel better.
If you’re feeling particularly low, there is always someone to talk to via The Samaritans or via NHS111.
Megan McHaleCompliance ManagerFlatley Construction Limited
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Ciprian OstafiePlanning and Compliance ManagerEncompass Environmental Ltd
"Here at Encompass Environmental Ltd, we were looking for a consultancy to assist with our management system to obtain ISO Certifications. BN SHE was recommended to us, and we are so pleased that we got the help and support of Neil and his team – we couldn’t have asked for more. In a very professional, efficient, and cost-effective way, Neil and the team have assisted us to set up our Integrated Management System and obtain the ISO 9001:2015, ISO 14001:2015 and ISO 45001:2018 Certifications. And not only that, the Integrated Management System that has been set up by them also meets the requirements of RISQS. We would like to take this opportunity to say thank you for all the help and support throughout this process and to any organisation out there that is looking for consultancy within Health and Safety and Management Systems, we believe, without a shadow of a doubt that BN SHE Consultancy Ltd is the company to steer you in the right direction."
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Joe Reynolds Operations DirectorAK Industries
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Dr. Noel JohnCompliance Director LCI Rail
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Michael Cirstean Managing Director Dynamic Group Limited
"Dynamic Group were looking for a company to help us with an integrated management system; ISO 9001, 14001 AND 45001 that would incorporate our rail management system to give us a solution for the whole business. We were referred to BN SHE and Neil was assigned to us to review our current systems. As soon as we were able to present to Neil our audit results he attended our offices and put together an action plan to adopt all the necessary processes and procedures required for us to reach the acquired standard. The speed in which Neil put our systems together is testament to the great service they provide. We gave them a narrow window within which we wanted to achieve these standards and working management system and they certainly delivered with time to spare. To help us through the process Neil often dealt with enquiries outside of office hours and this still further helped with a smoother process. Very professional at all times and highly recommended. Thank you to the BN SHE Team "
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